I’m a 20 year old girl who’s never been in a relationship or had her first kiss. So this date was very nerve-wracking for me. So I met this guy through the wonderful, magic, world of TINDER! LOL. I never thought I’d download Tinder, but my roomies (who are older than me) convinced me. I’ve always been a believer in meeting guys the natural way, but considering the fact that I’m introverted and don’t have any dating experience, I decided to give it a try. I was so skeptical that it would only be guys looking for a hookup, but I was pleasantly surprised that there are actually a lot of good guys on here! Anyways, back to the story. So the guy I met was named James and boy let me tell you, he had glorious arms. He was wearing a green and black plaid button up and a black short sleeve underneath, and once he took his plaid shirt off, all eyes were on his arms. He’s 21 (but 2 years older, just has a late birthday) and he’s taking an IT program. Over text he was really nice and super flirty so I was super excited about meeting him. He was from one city over, so he drove 20 minutes to pick me up, such a gentleman 🙂 We went to this bubble tea and board game shop, but we just got bbt and talked the whole time. We got along and had similar tastes in music and tv shows, but there was a lot of small awkward pauses. We got along more like friends rather than as potential partners. I think I was also overthinking it and taking it too seriously. I was super nervous, and I could tell he was too. When we ran out of questions, I was trying so hard to think of other things to talk about, but it was so hard. He was putting in an equal amount of effort, but I don’t know, we just didn’t click. We didn’t have that natural spark. After an hour and a half, I was like “Should we get going?” and he was like “Yeah” so then he dropped me home. We didn’t really break the ice. I feel like if we were given more time and a change of scenery we might have hit it off better. Anyways, afterwards I texted him “Thanks for tonight 🙂 it was nice meeting you” and he replied “Yeah for sure, I’m glad you had fun” and that was the end of it. When I got home, my roomies wanted to hear all about it, but the only way I could describe it was that it went okay. When my one roomie heard there was a bunch of little pauses, she was like “that’s where you ask more questions! you have to keep talking!” And then when she heard that at the end we didn’t hug, she was like “Wow, so it really went that bad hey?” Apparently, if the date went well you usually hug the guy because it gives a little bit of skin contact. Which makes sense to me now, because if I don’t hug them or have any physical contact, then won’t it seem like we’re just friends? Anyways, I made a mental note of that, so that on my next date I remember to hug them if it went well. So no, we never spoke again, and yes we are still matched on Tinder so the convo is still there. Truthfully, I’ll be a little sad when he unmatches later on because he was my first ever real date. I’m really glad he was my first date, he was a really good guy. It was also a really good learning experience, so now I know for the next date to ask more questions to really break the ice and get to know the guy.
Ps. Expect another Tinder Date post, because I’m going on my second one in a few days!